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View Poll Results: Is a quickie justified just before marriage?
Yes 4 30.77%
No 8 61.54%
Cannot say 1 7.69%
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Old March 21st, 2001, 08:31 AM
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There is this person I know. He is an Indian and about to get married. He is going to India and having a traditional arranged marriage.

He has met this girl through the matrimonial sites. Both families have met. This guy and the girl are in email and telephone contact all the time.

Now, the other day, I overheard this guy making plans to go to Vegas to visit the Bunny Ranch to do you know what. He was saying that its okay to have as many last quickies before marriage.

I felt a little odd. I mean this guy is all for the girl he is about to marry. COnstantly on CHAT with her in office, etc. And now this Vegas trip.

I am not being the morality brigade here, but just wanted to know your opinions.
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Old March 21st, 2001, 08:38 AM
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he's gonna go to Vegas? I'd rather go to Cancun

a serious fact is that girls dont prefer virgins these days. they'd rather have pro experience do them...
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Old March 21st, 2001, 08:49 AM
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Question Xandu, who told you that women dont prefer virgins

your sister ?? .... or just yr imagination ??

and how would this friend of yours feel if he sees his fiancee in Vegas doing the same thing ???

Morals are only for women in this male dominant world!!!

No wonder so many more divorces among Indians now
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Old March 21st, 2001, 08:59 AM
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OK Kate,

i dont know about that for sure. I just put down some hearsay. no need to get abusive about it... U'll be sorry if I start talking to you on your terms. Ask Frankie. U see I'm trying to be nice these days
so dont invite me to kick your butt.

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Old March 21st, 2001, 09:10 AM
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Re: Xandu, who told you that women dont prefer virgins

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your sister ?? .... or just yr imagination ??
no... actually your mother told me
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Old March 21st, 2001, 09:35 AM
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Unhappy Lets not get personal

The question should rather have been "Would you do it?"
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Don't you get it from his name and his actions his posts every thing in him. Damn this Moghal did not finish the job.
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getting back to the question at hand ...

Do you consider all extramarital sex to be immoral. If yes, then stop. The guy is immoral.

If no, then, do you believe that a person should be faithful to his/her spouse/fiance. If no, then stop. The guy is fine.

If yes, then, when do you believe the meter starts running on faithfulness.
1. Acquaintance.
2. Engagement.
3. Marriage.
4. Sex

There you will have your answer. I think it starts at engagement. If the guy is not yet engaged, then she is just a prospect. He is free to do what he wants. Unless he has said the magic words to her .. but even then how meaningful are those words if he has never even met her.

I say he is not being unfaithful. You cant cheat on a pen-pal.
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Talking Kate, it was Xandu's wife who told him .....

..... that she would have preferred a pro-player!!!

Plz don't mind Xandu, me just having some fun here .....
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Old March 21st, 2001, 10:22 AM
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eNRI, when I get a wife, I'm sure she'll tell me that. to avoid that can you help me practice with your wife (jus having some fun)

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too bad, but my wife only prefers pro-players like me.
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Old March 21st, 2001, 10:46 AM
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ohh i already got her perm (size supersets experience U see ) .. was being nice enuf to ask (read "inform") you


oh man, you really must try to get your wife to kiss you atleast once. who knows you may not remain that toad anymore hee hee LMAO

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Back to the original question.


why does he want to do a quickie? (or Quickies)

What is that person's rational behind doing so?
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i doubt...

if he will be faithful even after marriage...it's not a legal "marriage certificate" which changes a way a person thinks..i used to have an albanian room-mate going to school with me..his gf was in another state and he used to sleep with every female he could bed...
his opinion was "if u go to eat in a restaurant, u dont take home food" ...
i pity the girl marrying this guy...ask him to run some tests for HIV and spare the girl //
would anyone like their sis to marry somebody like that ?? something to think about...
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A quick twist to the original topic and I am out af here
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your fd shld instead go home and have quickie
with his soon to be wife..

the fact is majority of divorce cases among
asians there is strong mix of sexual dissatisfaction
or incompatibility among one or both..

for single guys around here
gone are the days when women used to suffer in silence
and cry bucket loads of tears on the bed wide awake while miyan sleeps soundly (Guide style)

Our tantric can guarantee a happy marriage
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