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Extra Marital Affair ?

Very disturbing story. Makes me wonder, why do I even complain about little things in life when some people seem to be going through what I really dread, even thinking about it. Read about this tragedy when you have time.

Source: Bangalore Mirror newspaper

Note to Mods: I am pasting the below here because some of my friends coud not open the link. If you think its too long, please feel free to edit this out and just leave the link. Thank you.


Cover Story Sweetyís Diary : How the knot she tied took her life



On June 2, 26-yr-old Asti Shekhar killed herself just three months after her dream marriage to a Wipro techie turned into a nightmare following the revelation of his illicit affair. Astiís diary which records her travails will be used by the prosecution as evidence in court.


Asti Shekhar, a bubbly, educated, enterprising young woman from Bihar got engaged to Sikandar Abhijeet, also from Bihar but working at Wipro in Bangalore, on Jan 23 this year. Life, as she saw it then, had taken on a rosy hue beyond her wildest imagination Ė a good-looking, loving husband with a nice job, a new comfortable life in a big city, all the other fruits of happy domesticity, leavened by loads of love, to follow... They got married on Feb 27, and in the next three months all her dreams got shattered. On June 2, she hung herself. Her father filed a criminal complaint against Abhijeet on June 4, and a few days later, the police arrested him on charges of death caused by dowry harassment.

The police have a diary purportedly written by Asti, mostly in Hindi but throughout in English script, and which diligently records her thoughts and feelings ever since she first met Abhijeet to her final hours. The diary will be produced in court as evidence by the prosecution. We reproduce here a slightly abridged version of it:

People mentioned in the diary:

Sikandar Abhijeet (Smartu, Mikku)

Asti Shekhar (Sweety)

Papaji and Mummiji
(Abhijeetís parents)

Papa and Mummy (Astiís parents)

Shekar (Astiís brother)

Ramya (Abhijeetís girlfriend)

Jan 1
Today is New Year and for the first time, instead of wishing you first Ďdiaryí, I wished my Smartu... You were second this time.
Jan 3
We shopped for 15 saris for the wedding.

Jan 5
I prepared a three-page shopping list for Smartu ... Today Smartu told me about his girlfriends. I thought if I am getting a guy like him, I should adjust with these things. But I have faith in him and I donít think he will cheat me. I have tied him with my love.

Jan 6
I love my sasural because Iím getting Smartu just because of them. For the first time I told him ĎI love youí.
Jan 7
My day starts with wishing my Smartu, and every day I wish him at 4 am in the morning. He told me today that till the day of our engagement, (Jan 23) I should not message him or call him. He felt that if we speak every day, the excitement and spark would disappear from our relationship. I feel he will not love me. I felt I was unable to create any kind of feelings in him.

Jan 9
I feel he also misses me a lot. He called to say that I should not tell anyone of the condition that he has imposed on me. He told me that he missed me a lot. I think he missed me and I want him to miss me. I want him to start loving me... Itís just the beginning and he will love me.
Jan 10
I didnít wish him in the morning and I felt guilty. He wished me and spoke to me today. It was romantic. Itís all new to me. He asked me many lovely questions and I felt happy and blushed with delight. I made him happy with my answers. I felt very happy and loved him more when he said we will become good friends before we were married. Today, he told me that another girl had stolen his heart before we met, but there was nothing between them except that he had a soft corner for that girl. I donít have a problem with this, but I will tease him about it. My in-laws are very good to me. Iím going to sleep now. Smartu...
Jan 14
Today is Makara Sankranti and I wished him. We had good food but I missed him a lot. I was worried about his lunch. I had a feast, but he didnít have anything special. If I had a chance I would have gone to him and prepared his favourite chavel, dal, aalo ka bhujia, panneer ki sabji and dhania patta ki chatni. My parents and I spoke to him and his parents on this festival day.
Jan 15
Something happened today. He talked strangely to me. He thinks that he does not deserve me and that Iím an invisible frame in front of him. But I know he is best for me and that he is beyond my expectations. My love for him increases every day. But I donít know what he thinks. But itís ok. On the 21st he will come here. I long for the 23rd. I canít wait for that day.
Jan 16
Today Nupurji (Smartuís sister) came to Patna. Papa went to meet her and gave her Rs 1,00,000. I miss my Smartu.
Jan 18
His mother, I mean Mummiji, called up to tell me to buy a good gift for Nupurji. I told her that I will give her a gift which she will never forget in her life. That sounded rude to her and I immediately apologised. We shopped for things for my engagement and marriage. Papa told me that that we had three more rounds of shopping to do. I am learning a lot nowadays, something new every time. With each passing day, my excitement is growing. My life is taking a new turn. Itís the beginning of a new chapter in my life. Itís titled LOVE.
Jan 20
I packed my bags and travelled to Patna to get ready for the engagement. I spoke to Smartu and we discussed about where we would honeymoon. We havenít decided yet, but it might be some place in the north-east. I booked the same room in Hotel Mayur where Smartu and I first met. My Smartu is coming to Patna tomorrow and Iím excited.
Jan 21
It was a great day and I was excited to see Smartu... He had a party last night and he asked me to wake him up at 4.30 in the morning. It was a difficult task but I did it and he reached Patna this afternoon. He came to our room. It was the first time I was meeting him after 25 long days. It was a beautiful moment. Then we went to dinner and we continued chatting via SMS...
Jan 22
I messaged him Ďgood morningí, but I didnít get a reply. I applied mehendi on my hands for the engagement... No, it was for my Smartu. People say if I get dark red colour on my hands, it is a good sign. But, I didnít get the colour I expected. This spoiled my mood. TOMORROW IS THE SPECIAL DAY IN MY LIFE.
Jan 23
Today is the most beautiful day in my life. Today is my engagement with Smartu and Iím getting nervous. Today he woke me up with a love message. I got ready and waited for shagun. The tilak ceremony for Smartu was conducted and then the engagement. We both had dinner and spoke for half an hour. Every one told me I looked beautiful and even Smartu was happy. After he left, I sent him an SMS saying I missed him. Itís over and Iím tired now, but I canít wait for the day when we will be married.
Jan 25
He was the only thing on my mind and I didnít want to think of anything else either. He told me he missed me a lot and wanted to spend more time with me. We spoke for two hours. Today I told him how much I love him and also proposed filmi style. He told me he loves me a lot. I donít have any words to express my feelings and happiness. He gives me all the happiness in my life. A girl wants only love, respect, safety, security, and faith from her husband and my Smartu is giving me all that. I have got the best person in my life. My Mummiji is a sweetheart. Tomorrow, my Smartu will leave for Bangalore. I canít wait to talk to him. In the evening, my uncle and aunt came with gifts. They pretended to be happy, but inside I knew they were upset because I had consented to marry someone else and not their son, who loves me very much.
Jan 27
I wished him (Smartu) in the morning and he replied romantically. We had a romantic chat early in the morning. Today was his bachelorís party and he went to Mysore with all his friends. He drank a lot. I didnít call him as he was drunk. I just had an SMS chat.
Jan 30
Today Papa met Mummiji and I saw the wedding card Smartuís family has printed. It was nice.
Jan 31
Even after four meetings in his office, he found time for me and spoke to me. I share all things with you, but today something happened which I want to forget. I will not tell you. Because whenever I read it, it would hurt me. I miss Smartu. I want to live my entire life with him happily. In just 27 days, I will be his wife forever. Iím waiting for it.
Feb 1
I was shocked when Mummiji told me that they are unhappy with the behaviour of my parents. Itís because she did not like the clothes we bought for Smartu for our engagement. In future, she wanted us to buy things for Smartu only from Bangalore. She also asked if my parents were giving their daughter things like furniture, cots, mattresses, TV, dressing table etc. Tell me diary, how can I ask Papa for these things. They are selling off Mamaís gold and are struggling with marriage expenses. My parents are on one side and on the other my sasural. What should I do now? I will try to keep both sides happy. Today I fasted for my Smartu.
Feb 4
I got my wedding card today. Itís beautiful, I am happy.
Feb 6
Sorry diary, I was very busy talking to Smartu as he was on leave. We spoke all day and he sent me pictures of our flat in Bangalore. The flat is beautiful and I will be the queen there. Iím excited to be going there.
Feb 8
He woke me up at 4.30 am. And we exchanged naughty messages. I felt I had already become his wife. Smartu did not call me the whole day. I was bored.
Feb 10
We have begun packing for the marriage. Almost 55 bags. We leave now for Patna.
Feb 13
I love singing. I practised today. Smartu and I used to chat the whole night... naughty, romantic love talk. He cared for me a lot. We spoke until midnight. At 12íoíclock we wished each other a happy Valentineís Day. This is our first Valentineís Day and we are not together. I told him to come early to Patna, but he said he will come on the 24th. I told him that I will give him a kiss on the lips if he stopped smoking. He agreed, but said I should start it first (the kiss). I agreed because I love him. If he quits his bad habits why should I have any problems with kissing him?
Feb 14
Today is Valentineís Day. I was bored, as Smartu was busy. Rahul (friend) called me and proposed to me but I scolded him a lot. And I told him if he does it again, I will stop talking to him. He apologised. He was serious, but what the hell yaar. I love my Smartu a lot and cannot even listen to this kind of crap from others. These are sacred words and I only want to hear them from my Smartu. Rahul spoilt my mood today.
Feb 15
Today, I spoke for a long time with Smartu. This morning he went to see his bossís new born baby. Later, he told me that today he understood the value of a wife and baby in a manís life. He thanked me as I am going to be his wife and give him a cute baby. Iím desperately waiting for the moment when I will give my Smartu our baby. O God, please grant my wish. Now I want to talk to my Smartu about our future.
Feb 16
Today my Smartu said, ĎI love youí. My morning became beautiful with this. I think my Smartu is a little upset and I know he will not tell me the reason. He still thinks Iím not mature enough to understand his feelings. Smartu will come on the 24th and I miss him. Eight days left to see him and I want the days to go fast.
Feb 17
Shekhar (brother) came and Papa went to meet Smartuís parents. Papa was very upset after that as Mummiji told him about the furniture and all other household things which Papa will have to give me at the time of marriage. Papa is tense as he has very little money left.
Feb 20
Smartu woke me up today. I forget everything else when I speak to him.
Feb 21
Mummiji has been hospitalised and Iím worried. God please make her well soon. Other marriage tensions still prevail.
Feb 24
Smartu will come to Patna tomorrow and all the rituals will start.
Feb 25
There were a lot of rituals and ceremonies to perform and I did not have the time to speak to Smartu today. We had the mehandi ceremony and this time I got a good colour. I enjoyed the sangeeth.
Feb 26
Smartu surprised me by coming to my house. I was happy to see him and we spent many hours together. I am excited about my wedding.
Feb 28
I became Mikkujiís dulhan yesterday. I married him yesterday. After that there was the vidayi hogayi. You know diary, for the first time Smartu held my hands. We fell asleep with him holding my hands. When I woke up I saw him beside me and I really did not believe that I was married to him. It all went like a dream.
March 1
I started the day with my Smartu. He was sleeping just beside me. We enjoyed very cosy moments together. We did not sleep almost the whole night. I mean the whole night. I feel great and itís all new to me. Now Iím not just Sweety, but Mr Sikandar Abhijeethís wife. I accept this position with dignity, love and respect, because I love and respect him a lot.
March 2
As promised, I kissed my Smartu on his lips last night. O My God! With this kiss, mene apna Smartu ko aur zyda apnaya and he became mine today. It was our first intimate physical moment and everything went easily. Tomorrow is my vidai and I will leave my house permanently with my Mikkuji. I have a little fear, but am very excited as well. I am very excited to be going to my new house. You will be there with me always, my diary.
March 3
Today is my Smartuís birthday and I was the first to wish him. Now Iím the bahu of Flat No. 194. I cried a lot at the time of vidai. We celebrated his birthday.
March 4
Nowadays, morning wishes are not messages, but lovely kisses. Everything is going well and Iím feeling happy. My sasural love me lot.
March 5
Today was the reception and it went off well.
March 8
Pappaji and Mummiji are very angry with my parents because my parents have not given them the money to buy a car and the furniture. What can my parents do? They donít have any money left. I had told Papa I would not get married so soon as we did not have the money. No one listened to me.
March 9
Mummiji took me to the market to buy clothes. She felt that my Papa had not given me good clothes at the time of marriage. I felt bad to be buying new clothes with Mummijiís money, but still I bought a few clothes. I was angry with my mother as she did not give me good clothes. Tomorrow, I am going to Bangalore with my Mikkuji and after a few days we will leave for our honeymoon to the north-east.


March 11
On the 10th, we reached Bangalore and I felt happy to see my new house. We attended the wedding of Mikkujiís friend. Many people told me that I looked very nice. Mikku also complimented me. Everything is going well, except for one thing. Deep down inside it hurts me that Mikku and his girlfriend Ramyaís relationship is slowly becoming deeper and stronger. I really donít know what do and with whom to share my feelings. On the first day we entered the house in Bangalore, Mikkuji told me that I should not use the bed in the house. He said I should not sleep on it, as he had purchased it for Ramya. Everyone knew about his girlfriend, but I did not know because I was madly in love with him. No one told me about this. Even my parents were more bothered about fulfilling their responsibility and did not think of the kind of person I was marrying. I have been blessed, but Iím not fully happy. I cried a lot as my Papa and mother did not even come to say bye when I was leaving. Now, I donít want to talk to anyone and Iím heading towards depression. There is no one who understands my feelings, my situation or my silence. If I tell anyone about this, it is like Iím killing myself. All my dreams are gone. This artificial smile is for others. No one knows what is going on inside me.
March 12
Mikkuji and I shopped for things for the house. We ordered a new bed and they told us that they will deliver it coming Thursday. Till that day, I should sleep on the carpet as the bed in the house is Ramyaís. We have not gone for our honeymoon nor are we thinking of it. I feel that we will never go on a honeymoon. And I feel Mikku doesnít want to go with me.
March 13
In the evening, he took me to Chairmanís Club and there he forced me to have a small shot of vodka.
March 18
The way Mummiji treats me is getting worse by the day. I do not understand why she is behaving like this. Today, the new bed was delivered. Mikku took me out, but somehow, I think he was only trying to placate me. Ramya is always in his heart. She has been there from the beginning. Each time he tries to get close to me, we only get further apart. I can only watch him drift away from me. I feel I made a big mistake by marrying him. Neither of us are happy in this marriage.
March 20
We went for long drive to Tumkur. Today is Holi and I called Mummyji to wish her. She spoke properly to me. My first Holi was a crime. All thanks to Papa as he did not bother to check to whom he was giving his daughter. I have a husband in name only. His soul and body belongs to someone else. There is no place for me in his heart and life. Mummyji warned me that if I could not keep her son happy, he would leave me and go away. Imagine! She is warning a girl who is just married. How can I deal with this behaviour? I feel sad and lonely. After all this, I wiped my tears and prepared lunch (rosagulla, mutton, dahi vada).
March 21
This has been a bad day. I do not even know why. I donít know what Mikkuji told his mother this morning. She called me and scolded me a lot. She asked me if I was a woman. I said Ďyesí and she asked me why her son felt I was always distant and aloof. Imagine! Doesnít she know why her son feels like that? Mikku only stays with me, but his heart and soul is with his honey. He does not hear my voice and he does not even look at me. I have tried to make him love me and feel my presence, but it hasnít worked. Perhaps itís my mistake. When he told me that he once had a girlfriend, I should have said no to this marriage. I donít know why I agreed. I should have told my Papa all this at that time. I have destroyed both Mikkuís life and mine. Now I donít know what will happen and what turn my life will take. How long should I tolerate this? Mummiji abuses me about many things now. I have decided that I will not ask anyone for anything anymore.

March 24
Now, I have a smile on my face. To make me happy, Smartu has finalised our honeymoon. Tomorrow we leave for Ooty and Kodikanal for five days. But the tensions and problems are still there. But I donít care about these damn problems. To hell with it. I have decided to live my life the way I used to live it... with no boundaries and no mental pressure.
March 30
We returned from the trip. It was ok. Smartu tried to behave normally with me, but he was not his usual self and I can feel what is going on in his mind. He is trying to make me feel that he is doing a lot for me by accepting me and our relationship. But who cares about me? I did not expect these complications after marriage. The tension is killing me. Mummiji says she is punishing herself as she has spoilt her sonís life through this marriage. She says Mikku sacrificed his love life just for her happiness. Why is she feeling all this now? Why didnít she think of this before our marriage? They are all thinking about themselves, but no one is bothered about how I feel. What wrong have I done? Anyway, I enjoyed the trip because I love travelling. We went boating and visited some lovely places.
March 31
I love cricket and today was India-Pakistan semi-final in World Cup 2011. We defeated Pakistan and we are in the finals against Sri Lanka on Saturday. Rest is ok.
April 2
YiiipppyyÖ.. India have won the World Cup. What an awesome match it was. It filled me with excitement. All Indians worship cricket and our players proved that they are gods of cricket. They have brought back the World Cup after 23 long years. It is a great day for all Indians. Smartu is totally drunk and it is 1.00 am in the night and he is out of home. I think I my entire life will be like this only.
April 12
How are you my dear diary? Apologies for not contacting you for such a long time. A number of incidents have happened in my life in the last few days. You are my best friend who is always there to listen to me when Iím sad and lonely. So I feel relaxed whenever I talk to you. I thank you for your support. Now Iím fighting with own emotions. Iím all alone now and I feel I need somebody with whom I can share my feelings. Mikku, my Smartu, whom I loved, married and shared my life, all of it has gone waste. I know now that all the dreams I had of staying with him for the rest of my life are shattered. They were broken by God. I am unable to make him happy and it is a shameful thing for any wife. Sometimes I think I should end my life, but this is not a solution to my problems. I donít know what to do and how to gain a place my husbandís heart. Whenever I see some other happy couple, I feel low. I think how lucky they are and how unlucky I am. This pain is unbearable. I told my parents and brother about Mikkuís affair with Ramya. They were shocked to hear this. They could not believe it. But they have to face this reality and they should know that their daughter has a short life left. Mikku is going to end our relationship in June and he is very serious about it. He plans to settle in Dubai for the rest of his life and for him June is the end of our relationship. He is going to marry Ramya, his love. I never thought that this would be the end of my life.

All the smiles and happiness have disappeared and there is only pressure, tension and sorrow left. My Papa knows that his beloved daughter is in deep pain. He blames himself for this mess. Thereís no charm for Smartu in this marriage and he just wants to be free from jail.

This marriage is a punishment for him. No one ó not my Papa, mother, Mikku nor his parents Ė none of them realise that they are punishing only me. Do you know dairy, Mummiji wanted Mikku to marry me because they wanted a cook Ė Sweety, the cook. Did he not understand my love for him? Did he not see it in my eyes? He only wants my body. Does he not understand my feelings towards him? Will I ever get him to love me? If he doesnít value our relationship will he leave me forever in June? All these questions go around in my head and I cannot even sleep. Papa had spent Rs 18,00,000 (18 lakh) on my marriage, and is this the end of it? All of them are thinking only about themselves. Mikkuís parents say they did not get a good dowry, TV, A/C, dining set, fridge etc and so they are not happy. Mikku didnít get his love, so he is not happy. Papa had spent lakhs and not even he is happy now. But what about me and what should I do now?

Mikku now thinks he is already married to Ramya. He married me only because he wanted to keep his parents happy. Mikku loses nothing from this marriage. Iím the only one who is losing my life. My relationship, all my expectations, emotions, and feelings, have gone and there is nobody to give them back to me. I hate this world. Mikku does not even speak to me now. He just answers Ďyesí or Ďnoí to my questions. Even physically Iím useless to him.

I canít take all this pain. I can end my life, but I want to see what chances life gives me. I feel good sharing all these things with you dairy. Thanks for listening to me patiently. Every moment I think about doing the things Mikku likes. Why does he not feel anything towards me? Why? Why? I think I am a burden to everyone. No one sees the sorrow Iím feeling. What should I do? Where should I go once Mikku leaves me in June forever?

April 13
There is no charm in life as usual today. I have never lived my life like this. Asti was a name which meant fun, excitement, and happiness. I had the capacity to bring a smile to everyoneís face. Look what has happened to me now. There is no happiness left in life. I want to run away from this unsuccessful life. I feel guilty about my parents and brother. They had expected many more from this marriage. They thought they fulfilled their responsibility. They fixed this marriage with this guy who was my SMARTU, but there is no charm left in this relationship. O God, please save me. Give me strength. Give me a solutions or kill me . Please God save meÖ Save meÖ Save me.
April 22
Life is moving at normal speed. Nothing has changed. I never expected life after marriage will become like this. I was a fool who only thought about romance and good things about married life. Things have changed and I only see a big dark hole in front my eyes. Mummiji asked me if I am happy? I said Ďyesí. She told me that I will be happy as I have got all the material things in life. She told me her son was not happy. My unhappiness and sorrow means nothing to her. She doesnít want to really know whether Iím happy or not. Mikkuji is not bothered about what I feel and he does not even think about me. I donít want to trouble my parents, so I havenít told them everything. With whom can I share my feelings? You are the only friend I can share my feelings with. Iím crying now. Yesterday also I cried a lot.
April 24
Iím as usual not happy with life. Today, I did a pregnancy test and it came back negative. There is nothing good that is happening to me. Iím not sure whether to feel sad or not with the result of the test. Mikku looks happy as he has no responsibility to fulfil. He is very happy in his own world with Ramya.

The so-called deadline to end the relationship is June 17. I donít know how to tell my parents and itís a waste of time to tell Mummiji. She will not understand my problems and feelings. Now you help me God. I have managed to stop my tears. Iím begging you please show me a way to clear my problems. Every day I cry in front of you God. Please show me the way.
April 26
Diary, today everything went out my hands. Today, I feel I am the poorest and unluckiest girl in this world. I lost my husband completely today. I hoped it would not happen, but it has happened. Today he slept alone in another room and left me alone. Why did this have to happen to me? Is it my mistake to have consented to a marriage which papa fixed? Yes, I think this is the mistake and Iím being punished. I feel I should end my life. The one I married never loved me and today even our beds have been separated. There is nothing left between us. I donít know how much I will cry today. I will not able to sleep. Iím not even doing anything to end these problems. I will try and do something. At least I know that if I fail, I can at least end my life. I love Mikku a lot. I donít know when he will understand my love for him.
April 29
Nothing good is happening in my life. I feel like tying a black cloth over my eyes and sleeping every moment. Today Mikku told me to go out of his life forever. He told me that I didnít deserve him. Marrying me was one big mistake he made in his life. I close for today now. I donít even feel like crying.


May 2
The last two days were very bad. All are upset now. All are praying to God to get this problem solved. I donít want to see sorrow or tears in my and Mikkuís family. I am in immense pain. I canít hurt Mikku. I am his wife and will do whatever he wants. I cannot see tears in his eyes. I am that unlucky and unfortunate wife who saw tears in her husbandís eyes. Yesterday, I pretended that I am ok, but I am not. I am dying with every passing second.I love Mammiji. I have promised Mikku that I will support him unconditionally and love him steadfastly. I will do anything for his happiness. I can leave him forever just to see a smile on his beautiful face. I am ready to face anything. Anyway, I am also not going to live for many more days. After a few days all the problems will be ended. Everything will become as it was four months back. But there will be one change and that is I will be here to see the change. I am waiting for that last moment. Actually I donít want to live anymore. I donít have any desire to stay here for much longer. I am not as strong as I make out to be. I do not want my family to suffer.

May 3
Diary, nothing is going in my favour. Shekar, my brother, is coming here to see the situation for himself. Had he come before marriage I would not have been in this situation. Today I am living with a person like Mikku, who doesnít have any feelings for me. Nor does he care about me. He feels giving money to run the house is his only responsibility. Why should I live at all?
May 8
Today my brother came. We had a good time and I spoke to him for hours together. I donít know if he listened to me. Does he understand his sisterís problems? Perhaps he may show me some way of getting out of this mess. Today I went for an interview, but I was not selected. I donít know why this is happening to me.
May 9
Mikku is not happy that my brother is here. He didnít even speak to him. Mikku came home late. Shekar felt insulted. Anyway, Shekhar is my brother and I will take care of him.
May 12
The whole day my brother was moody. He cried a lot and I felt bad seeing him like this. I wasnít able to give him a gift also.
May 19
Mikku left for Mysore for three days training. Itís just an excuse but I donít feel bad. It doesnít make a difference anymore whether he is here or not. I enjoy being left alone these days. Polycystic Ovary Syndrome [a very common condition among young Indian women leading to reduced fertility] problem attacked me again. Need good treatment now.
May 21
I went for all kinds of tests and everything is normal. I still have hope. Mikku was expected this morning but he came only in the evening. I wrote my report and I will go alone for check-ups. I donít want any help from Mikku. I can look after myself. Thanks Mikku, you have made me emotionless by your attitude and behaviour. I still feel pain when Mikkuís friendsí wives tell me about their after marriage experiences. They are all happy.
May 22
I woke up at 4 am and I couldnít sleep any more. I have nightmares. If my papa was here, he wouldnít have left me sleep alone. He would have taken me to his room. But there is no one. Mikkuís parents are coming here on 25th and Iím scared.

May 25
They arrived today. I prepared good food. Mikku is not in a good mood and I donít know why. Now that Mammiji is here, I hope everything will be settled. I hope my Smartu will again be mine.
May 28
I was very upset yesterday, so I didnít speak to you, diary. I cried a lot yesterday. Mikku told me that he did not have anything to give to his honey, Ramya not even his name. But Ramya has everything to give him. I am reaching the height of depression. The girl who never cried in her life, now cries every minute and every step. I spoke to an astrologer and he said everything will be sorted out in June. Today, he stopped eating with me. Tomorrow is Ramyaís birthday, but he is tense because he canít celebrate with her as Iím around. What should I do for this? I will end my life. Sorry, I have to go away from you also diary. But God doesnít want to see me happy.
June 2
Diary, I am very tired now. I am tired of this bloody life. Bad luck precedes me. I thought I would get that job today and all my problems will go away. But it didnít happen. Mammiji and Papaji say they will be with me and I am like a daughter to them, but kabtak? At any time, they can also get fed up with me. I canít go to my parents. I have nothing left, nothing to look forward to. Mummy, your daughter is going away with all respect and dignity. I have in my mind all the culture you taught me and even now your daughter is very pure. I havenít even thought about another man than Mikku. I donít know what mistake I committed. Mikku, I am not that bad a girl. I am going away from you and your life, to that place from where one cannot come back even if one wanted to. Now you are a free bird.

But one request: Donít give any sorrow to your mother. She loves you a lot. Be happy and please marry again. This time marry the girl whom you love because every girl will not be Sweety. Shekar bro, my blessing will be with you always. Now, you donít have to protect your sister anymore and I will not be a burden to you. Please look after papa and mummy.
Nupurji and Jijaji you tried a lot to make my home happier, now itís not required. Papa and mummy donít blame Mikkuís parents. I am responsible for my death. I am fed up with life, so I want to die. No one is responsible for my death except God. I will ask him why he took everything away from me. I love you all. I love you Mikku, you will be ever my SMARTUUUÖ always.

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But I wonder if this can be treated as dowry harassment death. Is there a law in India (or even elsewhere) which regulates Extra Marital Affairs?
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How is this in any way a dowry harassment death This is one psycho girl who needed urgent treatment... but sadly nobody recognized her condition and she let herself out of this world. I sure hope that not all women feel and react like this one did.
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How is this in any way a dowry harassment death This is one psycho girl who needed urgent treatment... but sadly nobody recognized her condition and she let herself out of this world. I sure hope that not all women feel and react like this one did.
I didnt think so either. But i guess the grieving parents wanted to do 'something' and ended up filing a case for harassment.
When will people realize that extra marital affairs lead to no ones good?!
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I didnt think so either. But i guess the grieving parents wanted to do 'something' and ended up filing a case for harassment.
When will people realize that extra marital affairs lead to no ones good?!
No no no. It was not any extra marital affair here... nowhere does she mention in the dairy that her hubby was involved in any. The writer of the dairy was a loser whose heart was high up there in the clouds building sand-castles... while all the facts were right there being played in front of her. Okay, she was cheated before marriage and maybe she blindly went into the marriage. But once she knew the ground-facts, she should have backed out and got her marriage annulled. But nope, she kept trying for a baby... as if that would have solved her problems
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No no no. It was not any extra marital affair here... nowhere does she mention in the dairy that her hubby was involved in any. The writer of the dairy was a loser whose heart was high up there in the clouds building sand-castles... while all the facts were right there being played in front of her. Okay, she was cheated before marriage and maybe she blindly went into the marriage. But once she knew the ground-facts, she should have backed out and got her marriage annulled. But nope, she kept trying for a baby... as if that would have solved her problems
Unless I am reading it wrong, her diary clearly said that Tukku guy was about to split with her due to his girl friend.

yes, she should have backed out. But we cant hold this alone as a basis for defending tikku.
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Unless I am reading it wrong, her diary clearly said that Tukku guy was about to split with her due to his girl friend.

yes, she should have backed out. But we cant hold this alone as a basis for defending tikku.
Nobody is defending tiku or talsania. He is/was a lout. But one comes across many louts in life... you just do not go around giving up so easily.

It seems he mentioned there is someone in his heart... well before marriage. That should have sent alarm-bells a ringing... but the girl was so crazy about her imaginary one-sided love that she even rejected a proposal from a good friend of her's... who probably had her in his heart for years... maybe... and maybe would have gladly accepted her back when her marriage failed.

The thing is, why did she continue the farce? She knew within a couple of days of arriving in Bangalooru that things were not what they were. A bed for her husband's girlfriend? And she meekly accepts it O, just tell me all girls are like that... please... please
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It seems he mentioned there is someone in his heart... well before marriage. That should have sent alarm-bells a ringing... but the girl was so crazy about her imaginary one-sided love that she even rejected a proposal from a good friend of her's... who probably had her in his heart for years... maybe... and maybe would have gladly accepted her back when her marriage failed.

The thing is, why did she continue the farce? She knew within a couple of days of arriving in Bangalooru that things were not what they were. A bed for her husband's girlfriend? And she meekly accepts it O, just tell me all girls are like that... please... please
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For a moment, forget Tikku and his parents. what happened to her common sense? I mean, she is educated and all and fully capable of trying for a job (2 tries will not be sufficient). And its high time parents stop treating their daughter as a burden. For God's sake...she should have been able to go back to her parents place. But she did not. She even says she is dying in dignity.

You are right, from the beginning itself there were signs that she might not be as happy...ie demands for dowry, furniture, gifts...Bah!

And trust me, not everyone are like Sweety. There are innocent girls like her who woud keep quite if hubby says the bed is for girlfriend. But there are people like me too, whom you wish you never met .
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Sad story for a weak minded woman. She had her version of the marriage and ignored all the red flags sprouting up well before marriage. That she had no confidantes besides her diary is in itself a sad fact.

I dont think her family has any grounds to sue anyone. Wouldnt the diary actually work against them?

Even though her dad spent 18 lakhs on her dowry, she does not indicate any mental or physical torture due to that. All her problems are more to do with her husbands pre and extra marital affair, rather than dowry.
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Im sorry i dont have any sympathy for a person who kills herself over a failed marriage. She should have separated from him. She killed herself over his love affair?! Sorry there is no dignity in taking your life. Its cowardice!

And no, I dont believe this should be a dowry death case! What the fish is wrong with people in our country!
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And who tf spends all of their money on a wedding... in today's world 18 lakhs... that's a lot of money. The father should have just given that money to his daughter... who could have then just started a business with her friend Rahul... and then setup a family with him too. I feel sad for this Rahul guy... reminds me of someone
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I dont know what is happening to the young generation of today? It makes me feel that I grew up in a totally different India.

If she found out hubby had an affair, it was very simple for her - just walk out and file for divorce.

Yes all the heartache and pain is very well justified but to end your life? For what? For whom?

Forget what the legal process is or what the law can do and cannot do in this case, but what the fuck is wrong with younger generation? Suicide seems to be the most viable option these days.

And what is this shit about 'Oh I got betrayed so let me kill myself' mentality?

I dont feel sympathy for the girl. I dont condone what her husband did, but I dont feel any sympathy. Sorry. There are a hundred ways to approach such problems and suicide is not one of them.
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I dont know what is happening to the young generation of today? It makes me feel that I grew up in a totally different India.

If she found out hubby had an affair, it was very simple for her - just walk out and file for divorce.

Yes all the heartache and pain is very well justified but to end your life? For what? For whom?

Forget what the legal process is or what the law can do and cannot do in this case, but what the fuck is wrong with younger generation? Suicide seems to be the most viable option these days.

And what is this shit about 'Oh I got betrayed so let me kill myself' mentality?

I dont feel sympathy for the girl. I dont condone what her husband did, but I dont feel any sympathy. Sorry. There are a hundred ways to approach such problems and suicide is not one of them.


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We returned from the trip. It was ok. Smartu tried to behave normally with me, but he was not his usual self and I can feel what is going on in his mind. He is trying to make me feel that he is doing a lot for me by accepting me and our relationship. But who cares about me? I did not expect these complications after marriage. The tension is killing me. Mummiji says she is punishing herself as she has spoilt her sonís life through this marriage. She says Mikku sacrificed his love life just for her happiness. Why is she feeling all this now? Why didnít she think of this before our marriage? They are all thinking about themselves, but no one is bothered about how I feel. What wrong have I done? Anyway, I enjoyed the trip because I love travelling. We went boating and visited some lovely places.
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