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Old September 17th, 2010, 11:04 AM
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Strong Enough To Let go

After my current assignment I applied for a job. I passed the interview with flying colors. Got the job but because they didnt allow me telecommute since the job was 50 miles away from my home and would have taken me 2.5 hours one way commute I had to turn it down with a very very heavy mind!

- good job
- good project
- very good company
- lots of learning
- challenging
but way to far away from my home. I had to put my family my kids before my career. My hubby also travels. Even though my parents were ready to help me out and also my gujju nanny I wouldnt have made the 2.5 hour one way journey everyday.

I had to think through and finally turned down this offer.

For me it was a job. Have you all had to take such decisions? Be it job or any other situation. To let go also requires immense strength.
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Old September 17th, 2010, 11:12 AM
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Re: Strong Enough To Let go

If you commute 5 hours a day just to get to and get back from a job, its not worth it. Unless the salary they pay you is so compelling that you cannot turn it down. But then again, you have your priorities - kids, family. If you are in a financial crunch and the salary is really really great, then you might have to re-prioritize.

Otherwise, nothing to feel bad about.
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Old September 17th, 2010, 11:22 AM
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To let go also requires immense strength.
It does, right. On the other hand, think about the people who do commute 5-6-7 hrs a day for their work. In Surat we have people who commute Surat-Mumbai-Surat daily !!
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Old September 17th, 2010, 11:25 AM
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It does, right. On the other hand, think about the people who do commute 5-6-7 hrs a day for their work. In Surat we have people who commute Surat-Mumbai-Surat daily !!
Pratiksha,

I already mentioned what you have to look for.

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I know that sometimes situations are such that even to make a regular living you have to commute so much. But here Pratiksha has a choice. Its not like she is in desperate need for a job. She can get a job nearer to her place.
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Old September 17th, 2010, 11:28 AM
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I know that sometimes situations are such that even to make a regular living you have to commute so much. But here Pratiksha has a choice. Its not like she is in desperate need for a job. She can get a job nearer to her place.
Oops.. obtuse again from me.. my bad.

What I should have written is : "Pratiksha, count your blessings that you have a choice, that you can afford to let go."
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Old September 17th, 2010, 11:30 AM
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If you commute 5 hours a day just to get to and get back from a job, its not worth it. Unless the salary they pay you is so compelling that you cannot turn it down. But then again, you have your priorities - kids, family. If you are in a financial crunch and the salary is really really great, then you might have to re-prioritize.

Otherwise, nothing to feel bad about.
Nah, pay was much lesser than my previous assignment. Only thing project was well funded as it was a big and stable comp, also length of proj would have been 2+ years. But I would have to compromise a lot with my kids.

Anyways, took a decision with my head and heart. But required a lot of strength I can say that.

I am sure some of you might have had greater dilemmas in life than my situation here. If you did please care to share.
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Old September 17th, 2010, 12:11 PM
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Re: Strong Enough To Let go

I travel 2 hours each way daily for 4 days. My job is 30 miles from home but in LA traffic it takes me around 2 hours. I have been doing it for 5 years now.
But I do work remote one day of week. The reason I do it -
It pays well ( Well euff for my mortgage, beer , food and my other personal activities )
Well respected at work
If I do move I need something better than this in money, position and location which is really hard combo to find.
If your priority is job closer to home then you should look for that and if you do interview for another job far then you should tell them in advance you would like to work remote.

The market has opened up. You should be able to find job closer. I know few companies in Brea that are hiring.
What technology yuo work on ?
I can forward information to Sunit and he can correspond to you. U dont need to share u r personal info with me.......
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Old September 17th, 2010, 12:16 PM
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I travel 2 hours each way daily for 4 days. My job is 30 miles from home but in LA traffic it takes me around 2 hours. I have been doing it for 5 years now.
But I do work remote one day of week. The reason I do it -
It pays well ( Well euff for my mortgage, beer , food and my other personal activities )
Well respected at work
If I do move I need something better than this in money, position and location which is really hard combo to find.
If your priority is job closer to home then you should look for that and if you do interview for another job far then you should tell them in advance you would like to work remote.

The market has opened up. You should be able to find job closer. I know few companies in Brea that are hiring.
What technology yuo work on ?
I can forward information to Sunit and he can correspond to you. U dont need to share u r personal info with me.......
Ok I shall PM you the technologies I work on. Thanks Dirty!
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Re: Strong Enough To Let go

I travel an hour and a half each way in train (3 hours a day gone in transit). If I take the car out, it would take longer. But yeah, if you have kids at home then 4 hour commute a day is a lot of travel.

Didnt have any major issues with travel but when I was leaving my job to relocate after marriage; I felt sad. I knew I can never get into a place like that again. I loved my work then...but I had to let go. The only inspiration and strength was that I am moving so that i can be with my husband. Same reasoning like you; to be closer to family. I dont regret that decision because I know thats what I have to do.
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50 miles away from my home and would have taken me 2.5 hours one way commute I had to turn it down with a very very heavy mind!
50 miles in 2.5 hrs...wow. Were you planning on biking to the office?
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I had many offers in San Francisco, but that means get onto Cal Train and the train commute itself is about an hour one way. Naaah, it was not worth it ... So I stuck to South Bay and in any case the companies in SF are mostly into social networks, online ad networks, etc. Hardly any 'non social hype' companies.
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50 miles in 2.5 hrs...wow. Were you planning on biking to the office?
LA traffic is some of the worst traffic in the world.
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Well.. I work out of home office not much money, but I can wear shorts to office
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