Would you date a ABCD girl/boy?

[echarcha]

I usually dont have much to ask on this particular forum, but an interesting question popped up in a conversation with a close friend.

The gist of the matter is : If you were in a position to date (and then later on possibly marry) a ABCD girl or boy, would you do it? Would you marry a ABCD?

Are there any questions or opinions you have about our Indians born in the USA? or for that matter any other place like UK or Canada?

[gandesh]

i wouldn't do it for two reasons:

(1) Either the ABCD girl is very messed up and screws around with every guy she meets...

(2) if not then she must be one of those highly conservative ones...

unlike girls raised in india there is no middle path in ABCDs... so i wouldn't even think of it...

[Rakshak]

Sure if she had a tight body and needed some good loving. Chuddat ke liye kuchh bhi karega guru!! Par apun shaadi waadi nahin manayega kya!!

[Jija]

Pushing up an interesting thread!

Rakshak..LOL @ tight body

[vakil sahib]

kahan kahan se yeh sadi hui thread nikalte ho yaar:D

[desichacha]

problem kya hai..

ABCD bhi insaan hi hain :)

[Qn_of_sunshine]

Originally posted by gandesh
i wouldn't do it for two reasons:

(1) Either the ABCD girl is very messed up and screws around with every guy she meets...

(2) if not then she must be one of those highly conservative ones...

unlike girls raised in india there is no middle path in ABCDs... so i wouldn't even think of it...

Let me begin by saying that I am super sensitive about such assumptions. So here it goes....

Do you even know any ABCDs? I find them to be completely refreshing. Desis who immigrate as adults are more confused than the ABCDs. Its just a term immigrant desis made up to put down the ones who were born in the US. Its not like Girls & Boys in India don't sleep around! Yes, ppl in the west are more outspoken about their intimate relationships but majority of them are not Promiscuous. There is a difference between promiscuity and relationships.

BTW, define middle path?

[2gud]

Originally posted by Qn_of_sunshine
Let me begin by saying that I am super sensitive about such assumptions. So here it goes....

Do you even know any ABCDs? I find them to be completely refreshing. Desis who immigrate as adults are more confused than the ABCDs. Its just a term immigrant desis made up to put down the ones who were born in the US. Its not like Girls & Boys in India don't sleep around! Yes, ppl in the west are more outspoken about their intimate relationships but majority of them are not Promiscuous. There is a difference between promiscuity and relationships.

BTW, define middle path?

ABCDs IMO are called so becoz they can't identify themselves completely with either other american citizens or desis... they are indianized inside their homes and amerikanized outside... they are somewhere in the middle of being a desi and american... may be the time when their number increases as it should, they can identify themselves to be a separate group altogether... like spanish and native americans mixed together to make latinos.. or blacks and whites mixed together to make mulattos...

But there is a difference I think in case of ABCDs... they are mostly born to parents who are both desis... so it will be difficult for them to have a separate identity (by way of looks) from desis...

[JaiSpeaks]

Actually by that analogy we are confused too ..
We also lead double lives ..

Ghar par sant aur bahar harami ... :D

Though dont worry abt Gandesh .. He's just going thru thaat i dont get anything psychology rite now .. I dont think he has given any ABCD's a chance in his life

[Qn_of_sunshine]

Originally posted by 2gud
they are indianized inside their homes and amerikanized outside... they are somewhere in the middle of being a desi and american...

But that's not really being confused. They may follow certain rules set by their parents inside the home but their personalities don't change. Every parent sets the rules in the house. Like, no TV after 7 pm. Or gotta be home by 10 pm or eating only on the dinning table etc. And as a child of that home, you follow the rules. And outside of the home, you follow the rules set by the school or your employer and such.

I understand what you are saying. As a teenager I felt the frustrations. But as an adult I feel that being confused is a part of growing up.

Besides my comments were directed more towards the comment about ABCD girls screwing around.

[Gr8_Hindustani]

Originally posted by gandesh
i wouldn't do it for two reasons:

(1) Either the ABCD girl is very messed up and screws around with every guy she meets...

(2) if not then she must be one of those highly conservative ones...

unlike girls raised in india there is no middle path in ABCDs... so i wouldn't even think of it...

I do not agree with your comments, gandesh. Can you say the desi girls in India do not screw around? I know girls both ABCD and desi who screw around and also those who do not screw around. So, I think, generalization is wrong.

As far as going out with an ABCD, why not? If she has good assets and willing to share with me, why not. But no strings attached. :D

[ashlover]

i wud defnitley date a ABCD girl as she is easy to get to bed and they r willing to experiment in anyway. easy to dump em too. they r good to screw n forget. i can tell this from several personal experience. wud never marry them for sure. they r jus money hungry

[echarcha]

Oh who dug up this old thread?? Is it whom I think it is...? :confused:

[Desi24]

Originally posted by ashlover
i wud defnitley date a ABCD girl as she is easy to get to bed and they r willing to experiment in anyway. easy to dump em too. they r good to screw n forget. i can tell this from several personal experience. wud never marry them for sure. they r jus money hungry

That's like saying that every h1b guy stinks, wears co**** oil in his hair, chews manikchand, can't speak english and is a chauvinistic pig who is abusive to his wife.

Stereotyping like you did above is extremely ignorant.