words or action

Well in the west I have oobserved one thing that is very important in a marriage to constantly tell ur spuse how much u love her/him verbally.

I have this american (gora)old lady as my neighbour.Once while I was chit-chatting with her she questioned me that why dont ndian husbands open the car door for thier wives???
I expalined to her that it is not a very important thing for us to do in order to make our marriages work.As long as we trust each other these small things hardly matters.We dont have to show our partener how much we love each other by kissing in public places every now and then and by saying i love u every half an hour.If the husband doesnt open the car door doesnt mean that he doesnt love his wife.

I think it is nt very important to keep saying the three golden words every now and then to show how much u love each other.

[viking]

I think these westerners are more demonstrative about everything even they way they convey their love to their loved ones.

I think the men and women have now developed some sixth sense for gauging their partners love for them by some of these etiquettes that you have mentioned.

We Indians are generally enjoy more security in our marraiges and are not threatened by competition or mere boredom with partners.

So if one partner stops behaving the 'right' way it is possibly taken as an indicator by the other partner to move on ;)

[bmistry]

It really shouldn't matter where and what country you are from.. It is always important that you express your feelings to the one you love.. and it also very important that now and then you do things for each other that will say that you love that person.. Even if it is opeinig the car door or pulling your dining chair.. There is nothing wrong in expressing your feelings to the one you love or for you care.. Even if you are an Indian.... It brings nothing but a happiness in person's life.. (only if it is done the correct way)!!!!

[laal_langot]

like pulling the chair when the person is almost on the seat

[bmistry]

If you are a guy then,,. good luck.. If you want to wait till the girl's on the chair.... SORRY!!!

[laal_langot]

ALMOST was the operative maam.....hope you understood...its a shortcut to sweeping the girl off her feet

[viking]

The girl would have to possess an incredible sense of humour to appreciate that kinda gesture :D

[laal_langot]

I would prefer if she had an even better sense of balance

[bmistry]

Well, it shouldn't have to be the guy always doing things for girls... It has to be the both way street... Sorry, to tell you this man, but I think you are having a hard time impressing a girl.... WAKE UP!

[laal_langot]

Why would I need to IMPRESS a girl....I mean their shape is right so you dont need to....As for two way street the girl sure could do something as well...for example she could protect me when passes are made at me/her

[bmistry]

May be it is not worth protecting you! Have you thought about that??? May be that is the only way to keep you away,.. May be he or she doesn't want you around... Sorry!! Some harsh word.. Bye... Getting off from wrok...

[echarcha]

I know that if you say small things like "how nice" or "that was great" or something to that effect of , the girl likes it.. Offcourse you cannot say these things all the time (without meaning them) as they will sound corny ;)

Even when a girl says sweet little things it makes a guy glow..

Well, about kissing in public - we Indians never had this tradition or practice. So we find it awkward. And it need not be that kissing in public proves your love. But definitely actions like holding hands while taking a leisurely stroll or an impromptu hug can be quite demonstrative that you care and love without having to say it in so many words...

Just leaving love to the security of marriage is not really correct. One need not go overboard with "Honey I love you" "Sugar puff I miss you" and all that... but whatever gestures and actions work between a couple is always good.

[bmistry]

Good job! whoever you are... thanks for brining this topic to an end... Pretty HOT!!!

[laal_langot]

I never claimed to be a kohinoor so I agree it might actually not be worth protecting me...but then who will tell the female how much her socks smell or that she needs a deo if I am no longer around??

[proudhindustani]

Bhai logo,

yes, I am ready to follow this culture, ready to kiss on the road, ready to do funny things on the car back seat, ready to say Honey I love u etc etc. If their husbands dont object - just kidding an old joke.

May be we can follow the same in US, but in India u can do around india gate, raj ghat or in budhha garden, but still city like Delhi u cant do that in open. Its my personal experience just kiss in the car and you'll find your car sarounded by a crowd enjoying the scene wali movie in the open.

[laal_langot]

Yaar kaunsi gaadi mein kiss karr rahe they??bailgaadi???agar kiss karne ka programme banaaya tha to kam se kam tinted glasses to lagwaa lene they.....waise yeh bataaiye ke jo crowd jama hua picture ke liye unhonay ticketein li ya was it a charity show for people suffering from loveria???

[aryaputra]

humara man-na hain ki is se behther kuch na hoga

"Ankhon hi Ankhom mein Ishaara ho gaya"

I don't necessarily need to say "I love you honey".
Humari to aankhein sub keh dehti hain! :D

As far as opening car doors, etc it depends whether you want to have a very formal relationship or an Informal relationship.

[echarcha]

are you available!
Good job! whoever you are... thanks for brining this topic to an end... Pretty HOT!!!


Hi bmistry,

Hmmm... am I available??? Well, in what size ? I gallon, 2 gallon?? :D

Just kidding..

Well I am quite sensistive about emotions but then again I am a born-in-India-been-in-US-for-just-3-years desi... I dont know about you....what you want.. what you like/dislike...

[bmistry]

Dear Echarcha (whomever)

Sorry, I didn't mean it that way.. I was just really impressed with your answer, that's why I wrote if you were available.... I really wanted to countinue with this topic, and I know I can but after reading what you had to say, it stop me from saying much... Thanks,.

[echarcha]

Thanks for the kind words..

I did not mean to say anything of 'that' sort ;)
I did not pre-judge you. I know what you meant.:cool:

Anyway nice to have you here on echarcha...

[bmistry]

Hi there!,,

Thanks for having me.. Make sure that I stick around... I am not very good at keeping this going...

Kind Regards,...

[echarcha]

Its always nice to have you here, like some other echarchans on this board...

And dont worry about not being able to keep it up with this board.. there will always be topics for you to discuss and start new threads here...

welcome and hang in there :)