I have been accused :(

[Rakhi]

By one of my acquaintances...

Here is the thing, I like wine, especially a full bodied red. On weekends or when I am partying (mostly), I take wine. usually its not more than 4 glasses of wine a week (2 on Friday night and 2 on Sat). Last night one of my acquaintances called and we were talking and suddenly she said that I am addicted to alcohol! She came up with this weird theory like, if I take 4 glasses of wine a week, it means 1000 times in 5 years and hence I am an addict!

I told her politely to keep her opinions to herself and hung up. I started wondering, can having 4 glasses of wine a week be called as addiction? Like I said, I do take it usually on weekends or on unusually stressful nights.
My husband says that I am NOT an addict at a and that it is quite common for people to have 4 glasses a week.

What is your take on this?

Edit: I can go for months without having any alcoholic beverage! Its not like I crave it.

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[PeaceSeeker]

मेरे विचार में आदतें ही समय बीतते addiction बन जाती हैं. जैसे सुबह एक कप चाय न मिले तो सरदर्द या uneasiness होता है. 4 ग्लास हर हफ्ते वो भी नित्य तय दिनों पर addiction ही है.

[Rakhi]

मेरे विचार में आदतें ही समय बीतते addiction बन जाती हैं. जैसे सुबह एक कप चाय न मिले तो सरदर्द या uneasiness होता है. 4 ग्लास हर हफ्ते वो भी नित्य तय दिनों पर addiction ही है.

Gosh! Its not a Hindi sub-section! Can I request you to say this in English?

[chitrala]

By one of my acquaintances...

Here is the thing, I like wine, especially a full bodied red. On weekends or when I am partying (mostly), I take wine. usually its not more than 4 glasses of wine a week (2 on Friday night and 2 on Sat). Last night one of my acquaintances called and we were talking and suddenly she said that I am addicted to alcohol! She came up with this weird theory like, if I take 4 glasses of wine a week, it means 1000 times in 5 years and hence I am an addict!

I told her politely to keep her opinions to herself and hung up. I started wondering, can having 4 glasses of wine a week be called as addiction? Like I said, I do take it usually on weekends or on unusually stressful nights.
My husband says that I am NOT an addict at a and that it is quite common for people to have 4 glasses a week.

What is your take on this?

Edit: I can go for months without having any alcoholic beverage! Its not like I crave it.
addiction |əˈdik sh ən|
noun
the fact or condition of being addicted to a particular substance, thing, or activity : he committed the theft to finance his drug addiction | an addiction to gambling.

addicted |əˈdiktid|
adjective
physically and mentally dependent on a particular substance, and unable to stop taking it without incurring adverse effects : she became addicted to alcohol and diet pills.
• enthusiastically devoted to a particular thing or activity : he's addicted to computers.



You're not an addict by definition... try going without it for a while and see if the urge is too strong and if it makes you uneasy, cranky and miserable. If it does then change the pattern. It still does not make you an addict but it is a habit.

[Rakhi]

You're not an addict by definition... try going without it for a while and see if the urge is too strong and if it makes you uneasy, cranky and miserable. If it does then change the pattern. It still does not make you an addict but it is a habit.

I completely quit drinking when we were trying for a baby...more than an year passed and I had no craving for it. Something happened and then we had to stop trying. Thats when I resumed. Like I said, I do not have a craving or anything....i take wine just because I like the taste of it.

[echarcha]

Gosh! Its not a Hindi sub-section! Can I request you to say this in English?

Ha yaar... itna Hindi mat thoko ...

By one of my acquaintances...

Here is the thing, I like wine, especially a full bodied red. On weekends or when I am partying (mostly), I take wine. usually its not more than 4 glasses of wine a week (2 on Friday night and 2 on Sat). Last night one of my acquaintances called and we were talking and suddenly she said that I am addicted to alcohol! She came up with this weird theory like, if I take 4 glasses of wine a week, it means 1000 times in 5 years and hence I am an addict!

I told her politely to keep her opinions to herself and hung up. I started wondering, can having 4 glasses of wine a week be called as addiction? Like I said, I do take it usually on weekends or on unusually stressful nights.
My husband says that I am NOT an addict at a and that it is quite common for people to have 4 glasses a week.

What is your take on this?

Edit: I can go for months without having any alcoholic beverage! Its not like I crave it.


Just because someone said you are addict does not make you one. Since you can go without touching spirits of any kind for months, I dont think its addiction. Addiction means you cannot do anything without having a glass of wine. Your whole mind is restless till you down that glass. If thats not the case, then you are not an alcoholic.

I used to enjoy a drink or two on the weekends. Then since I got this whole body building and health thing in my mind, I totally stopped. Not even a drop of beer let alone my favorite whiskey ever since. And no problems, no cravings, no thoughts of booze, no regrets. When I used to drink, I used to look forward to a drink on the weekends. But that was it. Now I simply dont. I mean the thought does not cross my mind.

[landyaBhai]

By one of my acquaintances...

Here is the thing, I like wine, especially a full bodied red. On weekends or when I am partying (mostly), I take wine. usually its not more than 4 glasses of wine a week (2 on Friday night and 2 on Sat). Last night one of my acquaintances called and we were talking and suddenly she said that I am addicted to alcohol! She came up with this weird theory like, if I take 4 glasses of wine a week, it means 1000 times in 5 years and hence I am an addict!

I told her politely to keep her opinions to herself and hung up. I started wondering, can having 4 glasses of wine a week be called as addiction? Like I said, I do take it usually on weekends or on unusually stressful nights.
My husband says that I am NOT an addict at a and that it is quite common for people to have 4 glasses a week.

What is your take on this?

Edit: I can go for months without having any alcoholic beverage! Its not like I crave it.

I think PeaceSeeker has analogously compared wine to tea ... can a regular tea drinker go without tea? most likely no and if he does, physical sideeffects include headache et. al.

For you, it is only on weekends and some nights that are stressful ...can you change this habit to 1 glass on a morning happy day and nothing for that week... would your mind habitually goto the cellar on a weekend night ..if yes, it is a mental conditioning (still not an addiction), wherein the mind associates drinking wine with a general feeling of well being, which it thinks is warranted only during the weekend evenings or stressful nights ...

try conditioning the mind to opposite scenarios ... and if you can do that then it is not addiction, it is just your mind putting two and two together automatically for you (without you initiating it) and then the impulse is to follow with whatever is the conclusion, which has never changed ...

[chitrala]

I completely quit drinking when we were trying for a baby...more than an year passed and I had no craving for it. Something happened and then we had to stop trying. Thats when I resumed. Like I said, I do not have a craving or anything....i take wine just because I like the taste of it.
Then screw them holier-than-thous... they think they are better human beings just because they don't touch alcohol or tobacco....
You're not an addict.

[landyaBhai]

Also about the accusation, dont take it seriously ... in fact, I would suspect that she has some form of addiction that she cant control and the last thing (after so-called rationalizations) is to find the same habit with someone close ... She must have tried it on her husband (or the other way round) and now she is left with no choice to find a bakra (i.e. a scapegoat) for a similar accusation ... if you take this accusation, you either need a rationalization that it is not addiction or you also need another scapegoat for you to accuse upon another, so that you can feel normal (again!)

[landyaBhai]

Then screw them holier-than-thous... they think they are better human beings just because they don't touch alcohol or tobacco....
You're not an addict.

reminds me of what Osho mentioned:

THERE IS NO POINT WORRYING ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS

It is not only with you, it is with everybody who has been BROUGHT UP BY A HYPOCRITICAL SOCIETY. Its whole training is TO HIDE YOUR ORIGINAL FACE, TO WEAR MASKS -- masks which are appealing to people, masks which are appreciated by people; and always remembering to adjust according to others people's ideas.

For millions of years our whole way of life has been of adjustment, of compromise. And compromise with whom? With a crowd -- in which everybody else is also compromising, where NOBODY IS OPENING UP HIS REALITY, where EVERYONE IS AFRAID OF BEING HIMSELF, because from the very beginning he has been told, "The way you are is not going to be acceptable."

You have to be acceptable, and that means YOU HAVE TO LIVE ACCORDING TO IDEALS, FORMALITIES, MANNERISMS. You have to be, more or less, an actor in a drama -- and do your best. Never expose yourself, never be naked and nude. HIDE YOURSELF -- FIRST FROM OTHERS, AND FINALLY FROM YOURSELF. Force yourself into such darkness that even you cannot see who you are.

Prem Maneesha, don't take it as a personal problem; IT IS OUR SOCIAL REALITY. It is the way WE HAVE BEEN MANUFACTURED, MODIFIED, CONTINUOUSLY PAINTED, WHITE-WASHED -- ACCORDING TO OTHERS' IDEAS. Just because those ideas are ancient and old, and because man has lived according to those ideas for centuries, it has been thought that they must be right; otherwise people would have rejected them long ago. THE LONGER AN IDEAL HAS LIVED, THE MORE VALUABLE IT BECOMES. The more rotten it is, the deadlier it is, the more respectable, the more honorable it must be.

It is difficult to fit with these ideals, it is arduous. IT IS A TREMENDOUS STRUGGLE AGAINST YOURSELF, against nature, against existence, against life. But you have been told by your parents, by your teachers, by your priests, by everybody -- and with good intentions that, "Don't assert yourself. Keep yourself out of the way, be a perfect hypocrite, and your life will be a successful life."

In short, it is ambition, success, a desire to fulfill the ego that has been used to force you into darkness. IF YOU WANT SUCCESS, if you want Nobel Prizes, if you want to be honored by the society, respected by the masses, then you have to do one thing absolutely: Never be yourself! Hide yourself, and JUST FUNCTION ACCORDING TO THE EXPECTATIONS OF OTHERS.

It is this very conditioning that I am absolutely against. I WANT YOU TO BE YOURSELF. It may bring disrespect, it may take away your so-called success. You may become a nobody from being a very famous celebrity. But there will be tremendous satisfaction and contentment, and a great relaxation.

WHO CARES, in the first place, TO BE CROWNED BY IDIOTS? It is an insult, it is not respectability.... THERE IS NO POINT being worried about other people; their opinions mean nothing.

THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS IN LIFE IS YOUR OWN OPINION ABOUT YOURSELF, your own respect for yourself. Nobody can destroy your dignity then, because it is not dependent on anybody's opinion. COME OUT IN THE OPEN -- EVEN IF IT GOES AGAINST THE WHOLE WORLD. Enjoy your original being. To me, that's what rebellion is, THAT'S WHAT RELIGION IS....

You want these stupid people to be respectful towards you, you want their appreciation. They are UTTERLY UNCONSCIOUS. THEY DON'T KNOW THEMSELVES, and they are prescribing a lifestyle for you -- and you accept it!

OSHO
The Rebel
Ch #6: Herald a new dawn
pm in Chuang Tzu Auditorium

[Rakhi]

Just because someone said you are addict does not make you one. Since you can go without touching spirits of any kind for months, I dont think its addiction. Addiction means you cannot do anything without having a glass of wine. Your whole mind is restless till you down that glass. If thats not the case, then you are not an alcoholic.



adminji, my husband was saying the same thing, that addiction means I cant do anything unless I have that glass of wine. In my case, usually weekdays are long and busy and weekends are occupied with something or the other. I try and keep Saturday night free so that I can watch a movie with popcorn and wine. I know, weird combo.



try conditioning the mind to opposite scenarios ... and if you can do that then it is not addiction, it is just your mind putting two and two together automatically for you (without you initiating it) and then the impulse is to follow with whatever is the conclusion, which has never changed ...

OK, I will try your method i.e just having a glass a week. I wonder what my husband would say. He clearly thinks that I pay too much attention to others and dont enjoy things which I like.

Then screw them holier-than-thous... they think they are better human beings just because they don't touch alcohol or tobacco....
You're not an addict.

thanks! Its unlike me that I look for re-assurances. But felt good to know you dont think I am an addict.

[pakkidost]

Untill unless you are paying for the drinks out of your own pocket no one has any business telling you you are addicted or not.

You are an adult and are responsible for your choices/decisions. You did the right thing by asking the person to shut up and now forget it. You are not answerable to anyone.

[dirty]

Opinions are like ass-holes. Everyone has one.... Screw her......

Why does a grwon up lady have to justify her wine love :rolleyes:

You pay out of your pocket and it does not interfere with your job. She has no right to make any sort of comments.....


You said acquittance ?

Make her un unacquinted ....

[dollyg]

No 4 glasses a week doesn't make u an addict , that's a silly accusation!

[Rakhi]

Untill unless you are paying for the drinks out of your own pocket no one has any business telling you you are addicted or not.



Yeah, it didnt strike me at that time that but hindsight, I should have told her this.


Make her un unacquinted ....
In the process..
No 4 glasses a week doesn't make u an addict , that's a silly accusation!

Yeah...I felt bad when she said that.

[JaiSpeaks]

One of my roomates started drinking every night .

He would get 750 ml vodka and start drinking at 6 and when its done go get those huge 2 liter bottles of Molson Ice . He will make sure he gets the bottles before 2 so that the liquor store wont close . He gradually shifted to Molson Ice since vodka was getting expensive . This was every evening after we came home from college . I did tell him to not drink so much so that he can save but it was his choice . He was very self-deprecating and even though he tried he felt relaxed when he drinks .

Now with his drinks he used to watch period cinema and smoke Marlboro 100's. The ash would go into these empty bottles . Most of these bottles got stacked up below the sink , or maybe lying in the front room .

Now why the prologue ? . An addict will behave like this . He had an assignment due , hence he got only a couple of bottles downed them and then went with his friend to work. Now he did not realize that it was 2 . He rushed to the liquor store but it was closed . So he comes home in a completely incoherent state , goes under the sink , brought out all the empty bottles and try to find atleast some amount of liquor which might have been remaining . Did not find it . What he did ? You remember the bottle with the ash. He saw some beer remaining in that bottle . HE DRANK IT . You know how gross is that . His friend was there the whole time trying to calm him down and he did not know what to do .

Rakhi , do you think that is how you will behave in the circumstance that there is no wine in the house ? If not , that you can show the middle finger to your friend . Some b****..

[Rakhi]

rakhi , do you think that is how you will behave in the circumstance that there is no wine in the house ? If not , that you can show the middle finger to your friend . Some b****..

omg! No! I will not behave this way!

[kkkk]

thats a rubbish opinion... dont worry about it...

Having said that, its probably better if you reduce to less than 4 glasses, even if only as an indulgence

[JustaGuy]

You really do worry too much about what others say or think. No you are not an addict and dont worry too much about others opinion.

[dirty]

One of my roomates started drinking every night .

He would get 750 ml vodka and start drinking at 6 and when its done go get those huge 2 liter bottles of Molson Ice . He will make sure he gets the bottles before 2 so that the liquor store wont close . He gradually shifted to Molson Ice since vodka was getting expensive . This was every evening after we came home from college . I did tell him to not drink so much so that he can save but it was his choice . He was very self-deprecating and even though he tried he felt relaxed when he drinks .

Now with his drinks he used to watch period cinema and smoke Marlboro 100's. The ash would go into these empty bottles . Most of these bottles got stacked up below the sink , or maybe lying in the front room .

Now why the prologue ? . An addict will behave like this . He had an assignment due , hence he got only a couple of bottles downed them and then went with his friend to work. Now he did not realize that it was 2 . He rushed to the liquor store but it was closed . So he comes home in a completely incoherent state , goes under the sink , brought out all the empty bottles and try to find atleast some amount of liquor which might have been remaining . Did not find it . What he did ? You remember the bottle with the ash. He saw some beer remaining in that bottle . HE DRANK IT . You know how gross is that . His friend was there the whole time trying to calm him down and he did not know what to do .

Rakhi , do you think that is how you will behave in the circumstance that there is no wine in the house ? If not , that you can show the middle finger to your friend . Some b****..

Thats why I refuse to leave in a state where liquor shop close early :mad:

I also make sure, my bar is stocked up pretty nice. Another sign on non-addict , my bar always has supplies.


One of my uncle is sort of addict . You dont call them addict in India . He deos not get nuts when he does not get drinkl but when he does , he typically empites the bottle. I usually carry liquor for my cousin when I visit India nad he always tells me get a seperate bottle for my dad. My cousin like to enjoy his drink while his dad loves to drink . Period. :D
Still I would not tolerate anyone saying shit to him coz. One he funds his own drinking habit and his drniking never interferes his work. He is very successful in his work and my cousin is well taken care of. Also he has never created a tamasha after drinking . Just uasual slurring and a little tipsy .

[chitrala]

No you are not an addict and dont worry too much about others opinion.

Unless you finish a whole bottle in 2 glasses. :D

[kkkk]

Now why the prologue ? . An addict will behave like this . He had an assignment due , hence he got only a couple of bottles downed them and then went with his friend to work. Now he did not realize that it was 2 . He rushed to the liquor store but it was closed . So he comes home in a completely incoherent state , goes under the sink , brought out all the empty bottles and try to find atleast some amount of liquor which might have been remaining . Did not find it . What he did ? You remember the bottle with the ash. He saw some beer remaining in that bottle . HE DRANK IT . You know how gross is that . His friend was there the whole time trying to calm him down and he did not know what to do .


jai bhai. student wale irresponsible din alag hi hote hai... I have smoked ciggi-butts from the trash when I couldnt find them at night-outs before exams. I wasnt addicted though, I dont smoke now.
your friend may yet turn out addict/alcoholic and he may turn out not to be....

[amritvani]

You can't be addicted to anything you consume on a weekly or monthly basis.

[dirty]

You can't be addicted to anything you consume on a weekly or monthly basis.

She has wine every week ....:smartass:

[sunnykode]

is this acquaintance a church going individual? Have nothing against that religion (before someone goes there), it is just I have a colleague here and she thinks like she is God's messenger and starts advising everyone around her:doh:

[JaiSpeaks]

jai bhai. student wale irresponsible din alag hi hote hai... I have smoked ciggi-butts from the trash when I couldnt find them at night-outs before exams. I wasnt addicted though, I dont smoke now.
your friend may yet turn out addict/alcoholic and he may turn out not to be....

His doctor told his liver is fked up from the drinks and his lung collapsed because he had bronchitis and Ashtma ( he used a pump ) . All that at age 24 . Bata kaun hai jo itna irresponsible hoyega. Woh bhi foreign desh mein .

I cannot guarantee even now that he will hit 30 .

[echarcha]

Thats why I refuse to leave in a state where liquor shop close early :mad:

I also make sure, my bar is stocked up pretty nice. Another sign on non-addict , my bar always has supplies.


dirty bhau, in California, liquor stores and convenience stores which stay open 24 hours are not allowed to sell liquor from 2AM to 6AM. You can confirm this with your local grocery or 711 store.

[Rakhi]

Thats why I refuse to leave in a state where liquor shop close early :mad:



probably it was 2 AM.

[dirty]

dirty bhau, in California, liquor stores and convenience stores which stay open 24 hours are not allowed to sell liquor from 2AM to 6AM. You can confirm this with your local grocery or 711 store.


Well I have not had need to rush out at 2am and buy liquor. I am usually dead drunk and passed out before that ....:rotfl:

probably it was 2 AM.

The narration he was coming back from work. Now, unless he works as security guard or a pimp, why would he come back at 2am ?:D

[landyaBhai]

His doctor told his liver is fked up from the drinks and his lung collapsed because he had bronchitis and Ashtma ( he used a pump ) . All that at age 24 . Bata kaun hai jo itna irresponsible hoyega. Woh bhi foreign desh mein .

I cannot guarantee even now that he will hit 30 .

kaun hai yeh banda ... frustu lag raha hai mereku ... shayari bhi karta hai kya ...

[landyaBhai]

Rakhiji, I have been wanting to drink wine, since ages ... Never really got the taste for it ... tried manytimes and thought, it is too sour and has too much flavor ...

any good recommendations ...

[dirty]

Rakhiji, I have been wanting to drink wine, since ages ... Never really got the taste for it ... tried manytimes and thought, it is too sour and has too much flavor ...

any good recommendations ...

Why :D YOu think she is expert on wines ? :D Becuase she drink everyday ? :D

[JaiSpeaks]

kaun hai yeh banda ... frustu lag raha hai mereku ... shayari bhi karta hai kya ...

woh nahi karta tha . lekin roz Rocky movies bajata tha

[tantric_yogi]

I am partying (mostly),

We have a party animal here. Party party all weekend. tch tch tch ... so this is what is happening to our India sabhyata ... married women are partying partying all weekend while poor husband is doing the dishes and cooking for next week. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Just kidding, Rakhiji.

I never drink at parties cause its more fun watching behavior of men and women acting absurd after few drinks. I never drink when in company of my wife and children. I drink ... I drink alone.

I shouldn't be going to a party where I need to drink to relax and enjoy company. Thats no party.


I take wine. usually its not more than 4 glasses of wine a week (2 on Friday night and 2 on Sat). Last night one of my acquaintances called and we were talking and suddenly she said that I am addicted to alcohol!

Rakhiji ... you are addicted. Exactly 2 on friday and 2 on saturday ... total number of 4 glasses you must have every week ... makes it an addiction.

Now if you were to drink ... 3 or may be 4 or may be 5 or may be even 7 glasses and sometime never ... makes it 'depending on my mood and how I feel" ... less likely to result in addiction.

I think so.


She came up with this weird theory like, if I take 4 glasses of wine a week, it means 1000 times in 5 years and hence I am an addict!

Hahahaha ... she is being a kill-joy and stupid.

Edit: I can go for months without having any alcoholic beverage! Its not like I crave it.

Rakhiji ... this conflicts with what you wrote earlier in this same post.




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[tantric_yogi]

One of my roomates started drinking every night .



Jaispeakbhai ... I am extremely worried ... how many men have you changed after Landyabhai left you? You are using precaution ... I hope. This habit of changing partners is not doing your self-worth not too good. Have you no self-respect? God gave you such a beautiful body so total strangers ravage it night after night after night? You must respect yourself and your body. You must restrain your desire for newness. Two weeks ago you had a man living with you who was into donating to missionaries. Today you are living with an alcoholic. Who will be next week? You may be enjoying now but someday you will regret this your need for newness. Please do not be offended. I am getting worried for you.

[Alibaba]

Well I have not had need to rush out at 2am and buy liquor. I am usually dead drunk and passed out before that ....:rotfl:



The narration he was coming back from work. Now, unless he works as security guard or a pimp, why would he come back at 2am ?:D

Ahem... Ahem... I used to work in a call centre... Hence used to come back around that time... even later on some occasions! :smartass:

As for Rakhiji... You're drinking is well and truly in control. No need to worry about other people's opinions.
Remember... Kuch toh log kahenge... logonka kaam hain kehena! :)

[soniya 2]

Rakhi yaar aap din badin naughty se naughty taaren hoti jaa rahi hain.

[dollyg]

Rakhi yaar aap din badin naughty se naughty taaren hoti jaa rahi hain.


what is naughty taaren....? is she bothering taaren *(stars) now??? :confused:

[soniya 2]

what is naughty taaren....? is she bothering taaren *(stars) now??? :confused:


This is the 3rd form of naughty in urdu ....:D
It means bohot zada naughty

[PeaceSeeker]

what is naughty taaren....? is she bothering taaren *(stars) now??? :confused:
उत्तर मिलने पर कृपया शब्दावली (http://www.echarcha.com/forum/showthread.php?t=37116)अपडेट अवश्य करें.

[Rakhi]

Rakhiji, I have been wanting to drink wine, since ages ... Never really got the taste for it ... tried manytimes and thought, it is too sour and has too much flavor ...

any good recommendations ...

My personal favorites are Chianti Classic and Ménage à trois.
Of course, the older the wine gets the better the taste would be.

Also, Robert Mondavi is becoming my favorite too.

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Read your post TY ji. I will think about it before I answer.

Ahem... Ahem... I used to work in a call centre... Hence used to come back around that time... even later on some occasions! :smartass:

Remember... Kuch toh log kahenge... logonka kaam hain kehena! :)

Sometimes even people in aviations work in weird shifts :o

[chitrala]

Sometimes even people in aviations work in weird shifts :o


Arre baba... he was a student... Jaipai mentioned about some due assignments... students sleep weird hours... ask me... during my smoking days... I had to go out to get smoke(or just smoke) in the wee hours of extreme cold days.

[Rakhi]

Arre baba... he was a student... Jaipai mentioned about some due assignments... students sleep weird hours... ask me... during my smoking days... I had to go out to get smoke(or just smoke) in the wee hours of extreme cold days.

Yeah yeah...I was saying that even people in aviations work weird shifts other than pimps like Dirty said :D.

Anyway, you dont sound yourself today. I hope everything is fine.

[JaiSpeaks]

Jaispeakbhai ... I am extremely worried ... how many men have you changed after Landyabhai left you? You are using precaution ... I hope. This habit of changing partners is not doing your self-worth not too good. Have you no self-respect? God gave you such a beautiful body so total strangers ravage it night after night after night? You must respect yourself and your body. You must restrain your desire for newness. Two weeks ago you had a man living with you who was into donating to missionaries. Today you are living with an alcoholic. Who will be next week? You may be enjoying now but someday you will regret this your need for newness. Please do not be offended. I am getting worried for you.

My story was from nearly 5 years ago . And on the topic that you have opened . What about self-respect ? You went around swaying your 15 incher like it was community property . Did you think about self-respect. Did you verify whether the foundation you were laying every night was even dignified to your 15 incher . You have never respected your 15 incher , you went on humiliating it further and further and now see want happened, it has rescinded with irreversible effects . You of all people have no right , I repeat no right to talk about dignity , when you yourself brought the handicap onto yourself .

And don't be worried , I am not even a smidgen of what you are . And I dont even need to be cocky like you . The concerned individuals know it best .

[tantric_yogi]

My story was from nearly 5 years ago . And on the topic that you have opened . What about self-respect ? You went around swaying your 15 incher like it was community property . Did you think about self-respect. Did you verify whether the foundation you were laying every night was even dignified to your 15 incher . You have never respected your 15 incher , you went on humiliating it further and further and now see want happened, it has rescinded with irreversible effects . You of all people have no right , I repeat no right to talk about dignity , when you yourself brought the handicap onto yourself .

And don't be worried , I am not even a smidgen of what you are . And I dont even need to be cocky like you . The concerned individuals know it best .

It took you 8 days to reply to my post and this is all you could come up with? Jaispeakbhai ... You were a civilized boy is what I used to think. Having fun with a human being's handicap? You don't have it in you to be sympathetic to a human being is okay ... why do you have to be empathetic? You throw stones at old people for fun? What kind of human being does that to another human being? Is this what they teach you in school? What good is your loving animals but hating humans? Is this what your pure-veg is all about? (http://www.echarcha.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=67) I am disappointed in you is an overstatement.

[chitrala]

Yeah yeah...I was saying that even people in aviations work weird shifts other than pimps like Dirty said :D.

Anyway, you dont sound yourself today. I hope everything is fine.

Oh... I completely forgot that your hubby dearest used to work graveyard shift as well. :D

I sound a lil different coz... thand lag gayi hai... gala kharab hai. :D

[JaiSpeaks]

It took you 8 days to reply to my post and this is all you could come up with? Jaispeakbhai ... You were a civilized boy is what I used to think. Having fun with a human being's handicap? You don't have it in you to be sympathetic to a human being is okay ... why do you have to be empathetic? You throw stones at old people for fun? What kind of human being does that to another human being? Is this what they teach you in school? What good is your loving animals but hating humans? Is this what your pure-veg is all about? (http://www.echarcha.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=67) I am disappointed in you is an overstatement.

Boohoo like I care if you got disappointed . You need to get taste of your own medicine . And you talking about civilized now ? You who was concerned and worried about my love for men .. such crass words as ravage etc etc . Did you think how will each of them feel when they hear how they have been represented here through such crude language. It is because of bullies like you that people of skewed orientations than what is accepted as norm by you and your ilk feel more inclined to end their sufferings . Respect other human beings for what they are and not what you want them to be. That was what I was taught in school . But you will never understand .

[tantric_yogi]

Boohoo like I care if you got disappointed . You need to get taste of your own medicine . And you talking about civilized now ? You who was concerned and worried about my love for men .. such crass words as ravage etc etc . Did you think how will each of them feel when they hear how they have been represented here through such crude language. It is because of bullies like you that people of skewed orientations than what is accepted as norm by you and your ilk feel more inclined to end their sufferings . Respect other human beings for what they are and not what you want them to be. That was what I was taught in school . But you will never understand .

Exhibit number one ... to non-queen's english speaking Indians ... exhibit is like sample/example/proof ... Jaispeakbhai, this your post quoted above in above quote is a fine example of everything that is wrong with humanity. We have stopped caring. And people like you become suspicious of intentions ... when someone kamal ka phool like me raises above the daldal of kichad of non-caring and cares.

My story is story of Sadhu and snake. Sadhu saved a snake from flood. Snake in return bit him. Sadhu's nature is to save. Snakes nature is to bite. Sadhu cannot change his nature. Snake should.

Now to alcohol ... few months ago I bought two ordinary fruit cakes. To one fruitcake I fed rum and cognac to other. I will tell you day after Christmas if its good to feed alcohol to fruit cakes.

[viking]

By one of my acquaintances...

Here is the thing, I like wine, especially a full bodied red. On weekends or when I am partying (mostly), I take wine. usually its not more than 4 glasses of wine a week (2 on Friday night and 2 on Sat). Last night one of my acquaintances called and we were talking and suddenly she said that I am addicted to alcohol! She came up with this weird theory like, if I take 4 glasses of wine a week, it means 1000 times in 5 years and hence I am an addict!

I told her politely to keep her opinions to herself and hung up. I started wondering, can having 4 glasses of wine a week be called as addiction? Like I said, I do take it usually on weekends or on unusually stressful nights.
My husband says that I am NOT an addict at a and that it is quite common for people to have 4 glasses a week.

What is your take on this?

Edit: I can go for months without having any alcoholic beverage! Its not like I crave it.

Some of your responses to discussions on Hindutva seem to point that you are indeed addicted. But then you should continue to do what suits you:)

[Premi]

Arre baba... he was a student... Jaipai mentioned about some due assignments... students sleep weird hours... ask me... during my smoking days... I had to go out to get smoke(or just smoke) in the wee hours of extreme cold days.


get two boxes when one is remaining get another one... ( box I m saying about which has ten packs )

no no I dont drink or smoke... not addicted to even coffee or tea. :rotfl:


as dhurs said ... drink water and act like drunk... :smartass:

[raniraja]

Rakhi, yes, you are an addict...

So, what? :scratch: .. it doesn't matter if you aren't hurting the others. Your friend herself is an addict - she is addicted to judging others and giving unsolicited advice.

At least wine, in moderation, is good for health. Does your friend know this? if not, google for it and give her the links.


गर्व से कहो हम wine addict हैं !!! and get into the habit of a glass of wine with dinner, it will help your heart :)


Dirty, you are supposed to be all grown up now, you must learn to look beyond your usual circle of security guards and pimps :whacky: :D :D

[sarv_shaktimaan]

i'm no expert but 4 glasses a week for a woman (am not a sexist.. thinking from having kids point of view) may be too much.. as to your friend telling you are addict.. tell her to stay clear of your way next time she sees you.. tell her you are nasty.

[chitrala]

i'm no expert but 4 glasses a week for a woman (am not a sexist.. thinking from having kids point of view) may be too much.. as to your friend telling you are addict.. tell her to stay clear of your way next time she sees you.. tell her you are nasty.
Kisi ne kya khoob kaha hai:
Baajre ko baajra nahin to kya jwari kahenge, hayn
aur sharabi ko sharabi nahin to kya juaari kahenge. :D

[Premi]

Kisi ne kya khoob kaha hai:
Baajre ko baajra nahin to kya jwari kahenge, hayn
aur sharabi ko sharabi nahin to kya juaari kahenge. :D


:rotfl::rotfl: :rep:

[Pratiksha]

By one of my acquaintances...

Here is the thing, I like wine, especially a full bodied red. On weekends or when I am partying (mostly), I take wine. usually its not more than 4 glasses of wine a week (2 on Friday night and 2 on Sat). Last night one of my acquaintances called and we were talking and suddenly she said that I am addicted to alcohol! She came up with this weird theory like, if I take 4 glasses of wine a week, it means 1000 times in 5 years and hence I am an addict!

I told her politely to keep her opinions to herself and hung up. I started wondering, can having 4 glasses of wine a week be called as addiction? Like I said, I do take it usually on weekends or on unusually stressful nights.
My husband says that I am NOT an addict at a and that it is quite common for people to have 4 glasses a week.

What is your take on this?

Edit: I can go for months without having any alcoholic beverage! Its not like I crave it.

There are many people who dont beleive in Live and Let Live. In marathi we call this unsolicited advise as "phukatcha salla" traslates to free/unwarranted advise.

Let us know when you feel the need to join the www.aa.org (http://www.aa.org) [Alcoholics Anonymous group]. Till then enjoy; pay no heed to such characters.

[zyzzva]

Addicted or not addicted how does it matters?youve got to do what youve got to do - dumping and humping for instance.

Why feel pissed off when i tell u ,ur addicted to pissing.acquaintace might not be right in her understanding of the meaning of addiction but u certainly were wrong in being rude and not being discreet.display discretion ,the world bows to it,trust me.

[Rakhi]

Addicted or not addicted how does it matters?youve got to do what youve got to do - dumping and humping for instance.

Why feel pissed off when i tell u ,ur addicted to pissing.acquaintace might not be right in her understanding of the meaning of addiction but u certainly were wrong in being rude and not being discreet.display discretion ,the world bows to it,trust me.

Long time no see...

Can you please explain to whom I should have been discreet with? You mean to say I shouldnt have told her in the first place that I take wine?

[dollyg]

Long time no see...

Can you please explain to whom I should have been discreet with? You mean to say I shouldnt have told her in the first place that I take wine?

why did she ask u if u take wine? and again specifics as to how much? Is she trying to be your mother?

btw Ménage à Trois Red Wine was a very good reco. i loved it!

[Rakhi]

why did she ask u if u take wine? and again specifics as to how much? Is she trying to be your mother?

btw Ménage à Trois Red was a very good reco. i loved it!

She was throwing party early next year and asked me about wine at that time.

Dont mention it that way. Seriously :D

[chitrala]

btw Ménage à Trois Red was a very good reco. i loved it!


Dont mention it that way. Seriously :D


:goodjob::goodjob::up::up:
Kidding. :D

[dollyg]

She was throwing party early next year and asked me about wine at that time.

Dont mention it that way. Seriously :D

lol

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[sgars]

4 glasses a week is hardly anything unless the glasses look like this.
http://partyfail.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/funny_pictures_Doctors_Advice_fail_huge_glass.jpg

[JaiSpeaks]

I feel like throwing up now when I have a glass of any kind of alcohol . What does that mean . Is there anything like allergy to alcohol . That will be tragic .

[chitrala]

I feel like throwing up now when I have a glass of any kind of alcohol . What does that mean . Is there anything like allergy to alcohol . That will be tragic .
I'm pretty sure there is... I've heard of medicines, which family members of the addict secretly mix in his food, have similar kind of effects. Hope no one is doing that to you. :D Quite a few people have allergy to wines. I think all human beings have natural dislike to alcohol... no one takes his first sip and appreciates it.

Do you have similar reaction to cocktails also?

[razzrhino]

I feel like throwing up now when I have a glass of any kind of alcohol . What does that mean . Is there anything like allergy to alcohol . That will be tragic .

It's just a phase jai paaji... When u are single and have gone thru your binge drinking years... There will come a time when booze will lose it's appeal for you...

So you layoff it... And in time learn to appreciate it like a connoisseur :goodjob: